the male concious

[misaki_112]

sorry to keep posting topics not related to eds...but im having a bit of a rough week. especially with friends and my bf.

so i took out one of my closest girlfriends to dinner last week because i'll be going back to the states for a year. and we had such a great time, i even bought her a matching ring from tiffany's as a token of our friendship. we drank a little and headed over to kareoke to sing. all's great until my bf calls me and asks if he can join us.

he comes and at first it was so great. he was sitting really close to me and had his hand on my knee. whispered in my ear and stuff. but as the night went on, he kinda scooted away from me and started talking a lot to my friend. i got kind of pissed and walked out to have a cigarette and when i came back they were talking and laughing like old friends. after our session was over, we walked out and he KEPT flattering her about how great of a singer she was. he even remembered one of the song titles that she sang and said "that was seriously the best rendition of that song!" (honestly, she's not that good...im not cutting her down, but even she told me that was the first time anyone complimented her on her singing)

i was so annoyed i called a taxi and suggested to my friend that maybe we should go clubbing. my bf had to see patients early the next morning so he had to go home. but he says that he'll go with us to the next place we're going to "make sure we get there safe". i got even more irritated thinking he wanted to spend more time with her so i got into the taxi. my friend got in too but suddenly my bf follows her in. um OKAY.

i went home fuming and the next morning i get a text msg from him saying "i had such a great time hearing you two sing. tell (my friend's name) i said hi too." by that time i was so angry i just ignored his texts for the next two days. he started emailing me that he was "so worried" and "what's wrong???" i dont even know what to do about it.

i feel so petty for being jealous of my friend...but...ARGH!!!

does he like her?????????

[candy]

aww, hun I'm sorry he's being such and idiot and not seeing the problem, it sucks. I'm sure he's not really into your friend, he's just probably trying to get to know your friend so that he can have a good time with your girlfriends too. You know how every guy's dream girl is the girl that can chill with the guys and still be cool? well he's probably just trying to do that.
Tell him what's bugging you, it won't help anything just to be mad at him, cause then he will find another girl, thinking that you don't like him anymore. Try to chalk it up to you being paranoid because you're on your period or something, excuses like that seem to help, considering it's such a shady topic with most guys.
You're friend seems to think that his behaviour wasn't really appropriate either, so I wouldn't worry about her trying to "steal your man" she was probably just trying to get him to have a good time too. And it is kind of awkward for her being the third wheel when your bf showed up. Maybe your bf caught on to that, and it was his way of trying to make her feel less awkward?
So just talk to him, tell him what's up, ignoring him isn't going to solve any problems. If it's bugging you too much, maybe you should evaluate the relationship and see if there's anything else bugging you too.
Good luck hun!