ana help

[charlieboy]

Hi,
I wonder if there is anyone with experience of ana that can help me.

I know this isn’t strictly ana recovery but I thought I might get flamed less here than pro-ana (sorry)

My girlfriend (we are both 21) has ana, I really would like to know what I can say or do to help her feel better, because I don’t have ana I don’t understand at all, and reading about it on the internet isn’t helping.
I know that I’m not capable of any sort of cure but all I want to do is make her feel better and happier, is this possible?

She isn’t ready to recover and I worry about her an awful lot,
I don’t pester her about her weight at all, other than telling her she’s beautiful how she is, and that I don’t care what she weighs so long as she is healthy (Is this right?)

because I’m depressive, (not seriously, medically controlled) there are times when I can’t be there for her, or I get far too clingy for her, (she makes me happy, when I feel that I’m going down I hold on tight and its too much for her sometimes) does anyone think that backing away from the relationship would be the best thing to do for her? She is very pretty and could very easily find someone else.

Sometimes when it gets really bad for her she tends to block me out, turn her phone off etc, what is the best thing to do in this situation, I’m torn between making a fuss so she knows I care about her and letting her be, my worry here is that she might think I don’t care about her when she’s going through a rough patch. we have been together for nearly 6 months and this is the first time while i've been with her that her ana has got this bad.

Any help or criticism you can offer is much appreciated.

Thank you so much for reading
Charlie.

[StrivingtobePerfect]

This is a hard one.. You need to let her know how you are feeling, mainly that you are torn about what she needs (ie you or not you).. you've got to let her know you are there for her and you don't feel she needs Ana but you aren't gonna interfere unless it gets out of hand (such as close to death) I could easily tell you alot of things.. but I think what you need to do is talk to her.. you have to see what she is thinking and feeling esp. about you. Does she feel like you think she needs Ana because you aren't pushing her away from it.. does she feel like you dont care when you arent clingy.. and so on.. She is the only one who can answer the questions I would need to tell you exactly what to do..